Epilogue

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“Everyone smiles in the same language.”
– George Carlin

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The exclusive response from disgraced self-help guru Kurt Sampson.

 

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I am so, very, sorry.

It’s something I’ve wanted to say to you all for a long time now. My apology may seem trite and insincere. If it does, I guess I can’t blame you for taking it that way. I have to keep all of the blame for myself.

I’d like to thank ‘Self Magazine’ for giving me a platform to try and explain myself. They were well within their rights to refuse me. The events that have unfolded have embarrassed them as publishers, but also the entire sector they work within. It was never my intention to undermine the self-help industry and the many good, honest people that populate it.

There has been plenty written about me since my last article. Most of it has been accurate, some of it has been produced simply to hurt and embarrass me. It goes without saying that I was already sufficiently embarrassed and none of the revelations have made me feel worse. Nothing anybody else can say about me can be worse than how I feel.

I’m not trying to play on your sympathies. I’m simply being truthful. It’s about time, right?

I don’t know when it was that I started to stray away from my better judgement. There wasn’t a pivotal point. It was something that happened over a long time, so gradually that by the time I realised something was wrong, it was too late to change back without destroying everything that I’d built.

The fact is, the life I had built felt like a cage, and it wasn’t healthy for anyone trapped inside. It should have been enough to convince me to dismantle it and start again. It was my own personal weaknesses that made me carry on living a lie. The easy road is never usually the best one, but it takes courage to turn aside and travel along the difficult path. Courage I never had.

My hypocrisy is plain for all to see. Unfortunately, the truth will threaten to invalidate all the advice I have given over the years, which is a shame.

The spirit in which I worked was false, but the messages and lessons themselves had and continue to have validity.

I realise this is going to be a hard sell now you know who all of this stuff is coming from. You’re not likely to take housing advice from a homeless guy, so I guess you’re no longer interested in taking life advice from a screw-up.

It’s up to each of you as individuals. It always has been. Just because I seemed like a slick, together, kind of guy it was a lot easier to take my advice. My entire career depended on people paying me out of an aspiration to have a life similar to mine. A sentiment that is now steeped in irony. The truth is: I never had a secret to sell. I never had a golden bullet, but I never said I did either.

You get to choose if any of the advice I’ve given in the past has any worth to it. We get advice from all angles, from everyone, every day. We only choose to listen to some of it, we only choose to apply even less of that portion to our lives. It’s my hope that some of the people I tried to help over the past 20 years will still find something of value in all of the advice I sold. Just because I couldn’t live up to the standards I set out for myself and for everyone else, it doesn’t mean that my methodologies were flawed.

There is a fault in all things, a margin of error. Usually that error is human. The errors are all mine, the system can still work. The trick is to be a stronger and better person than I was. Than I am.

Currently I’m trying to piece my life back together. I’m getting help from the right people and I’m slowly beginning to see a little hope. I’ve been lost for so long that I really don’t know what sort of person I am. It’s actually quite exciting.

I may have lost everything (and to reassure you, I have lost absolutely everything) but I have a blank slate now. I can do anything. I have a second chance. I don’t deserve it, so it’s my duty to make it count.

I’m not going to live my life for others anymore. I may be the only person left willing to do it, but I’m going to take my own advice. I’m going to try and make myself happy.

 

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Kimberly:
I think it’s very brave of you to face up to your own inadequacies and realise that you have to make changes in your life, especially in the glare of the public limelight. Good luck to you.

Anonymous:
I can’t believe people are supporting this creep. He makes loads of money from stupid people that can’t sort out their own lives then turns around and thinks he can get off the hook with an inadequate ‘I’m sorry’ when he’s been found out as a fraud. Pathetic.

Kimberly:
@Anonymous. If you’re going to slag someone off at least have the decency to give your name. It’s people like you that make the internet a worse place. You wouldn’t dare say something like that to the guys face. You’re a coward. At least Kurt has the strength to deal with his problems and be up front about it.

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Evie:
I must admit to being a little disappointed about the revelations surrounding Kurt in recent weeks. The only disappointment I feel is in myself. I put the guy up on a pedestal in my own mind. Nobody is perfect and if you think they are then you’re being lied to. Everyone that ever gave Kurt Sampson a penny wanted something in return. It just happens that what he sold was intangible. Everyone has to assess if what they got from Kurt was worth the time and money. Personally, I like to think he helped me, but as my husband insists on pointing out, why give that guy all the credit? It’s called self-help isn’t it?

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Glen:
The bloke’s a charlatan, this just goes to highlight what rampant hypocrisy exists in the self-help industry. As long as there are people stupid enough to buy, they’ll be lowlife’s like this guy selling.

Lucy:
Leave the guy alone. He’s apologised, just let him try to piece his life back together. Everyone deserves a second chance.

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Derek:
@Lucy. Since when was ‘Sorry’ enough to balance out over 20 years of taking people’s money under false pretences. I can’t believe people can live their lives with such naivety. How don’t you get screwed by the world on a daily basis?

Charlie:
I’ve appreciated the advice I got from Kurt Sampson this year. He helped me make some changes and I feel better about my life. I don’t really care what people say about him. In fact this is the first time the bloke’s seemed human to me.

Anonymous:
It sounds terrible being trapped in a life with a massive bank balance doing a job that requires little to no effort or creativity. You poor thing.

Linda:
Hope you turn it around Kurt. I still value your words. X

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Simone:
Leave off the guy. Least he’s come clean. He can’t take all the blame. The people that supported his 20 year career should be held to account as well. He wouldn’t have been able to make a penny out of his advice if there wasn’t a load of people willing to pay.

Karl:
You deserve everything you get. Just a con man that finally got found out.

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Martha:
All the best, Kurt. I hope you can find a way to live a better life now that you’re free.

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